No Penis Bonfires or Vagina Bashing Here.

img_1853I found this marvelous article in Esquire. “12 Things Men Don’t Know About Women.” It’s written by the extremely talented Caitlin Moran, who has some marvelous advice for both men and women. Numbers six and seven on her list are human conditions I think we really need to address, fear of being attacked and tired of being objectified. In my mind the only way to do this is to look at why these situations exist. What is it about our society, our upbringing, the things we need and value that drives some to objectify and sexualize those they are either attracted to or uncomfortable with?

Maybe it’s as she says, we don’t really believe in the sanctity of life. Otherwise how could we so easily accept war, famine, epidemic, pain and poverty? I’m going to go out on a limb here and say that the ultimate expression of our belief in the sanctity of life is witnessed in our ability to take a compliment. We work really hard at being who we are, doing what we do, contributing to the health of our relationships. If someone recognizes that and pays us a compliment, what does it say about how we value ourselves if we minimize that compliment? And if we can’t value ourselves how can we value others?

I found this quote ages ago. Not sure who said it but, I think it’s pretty powerful and would go far to ensuring that we sanctify all of life by sanctifying our own at all times.

“Receive compliments in silence; let them wash over you as if they are raindrops falling from the sky. Receive them in a state of mindfulness, paying attention only to what is being said at that particular moment. This is so you might receive them in their purest form. Allow them to sit with you awhile, to sink in and take root. Soon you will know the truth that others already know.”

If we can recognize the good in ourselves maybe it will be easier to recognize the good in others. By recognizing the good in ourselves we learn to value our own lives, our own experiences. Once we do that then it is easier to value the lives and experiences of others. Maybe then, we can eliminate the penis bonfires and the vagina bashing.

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